When she
called to tell me – it was confirmed – she had dementia, the morning
sky, from my window, suddenly
morphed, before my eyes, to black and grey – the day
ripped to rags in fuming clouds …
as my
world, quietly, tore asunder.
From the phone I heard her voice – brittle and stiff – say: the news is not good ... looks like, I have Early Stage Alzheimer’s ... makes a strange kind of sense, doesn’t it ... with everything ... and all … but, I don’t want to talk about it now … just thought, I’d call to say ... I have dementia, and she giggled – somewhat strained, I thought, but still: in that lovely breeze on-wind-chime way she has.
From the phone I heard her voice – brittle and stiff – say: the news is not good ... looks like, I have Early Stage Alzheimer’s ... makes a strange kind of sense, doesn’t it ... with everything ... and all … but, I don’t want to talk about it now … just thought, I’d call to say ... I have dementia, and she giggled – somewhat strained, I thought, but still: in that lovely breeze on-wind-chime way she has.
I said, I would come to her – but she said no, not now. She had something she
wanted to do, alone – something she wanted to get started on. And she told me that she needed to knit. She had knitted by her mother's side, when she was a young girl and she needed to feel her mother near her. She needed to knit and shoo away "the dark clouds" with memories. And as long as she could do that – a few stitches – every day – it would be a splendid day, and she giggled again ... and whispered: I'm going to knit you mittens, to help keep you warm when winter comes – as she hung up the phone.
stitches ... knit ...
purl …
a lifetime of moments –
beneath a splendid sky
a lifetime of moments –
beneath a splendid sky
note:
purl (v) to knit yarn with a purl stitch.
the intertwisting of thread that knots a stitch, usually along an edge.
to flow or ripple with a murmuring stream.
the intertwisting of thread that knots a stitch, usually along an edge.
to flow or ripple with a murmuring stream.
photo: Knitting Mittens – W. Bourke
© 2015 Wendy Bourke
© 2015 Wendy Bourke
Nice haibun...touching.
ReplyDeleteHow beautiful this is. My own mother too had dementia and the sadness is within me still.
ReplyDeleteVery heart warming indeed. Greetings to you an best wishes always.
ReplyDeletea lovely haibun to warm the heart's sadness; i truly enjoyed this piece
ReplyDeletehave a good Sunday Wendy
much love...
lovely and moving haibun.
ReplyDeleteand she is very courageous.
Such a human, poignant and in someway uplifting piece of writing -breeze on-wind-chime way - is such a wonderful description and that giggle...making things 'ok' for her child...so very touching and yes, going back to small comforts..memories of love is the best medicine...
ReplyDeleteGorgeous haibun :D
ReplyDeletethat soft dignity in shooing away 'the dark clouds' is heart warming and so very touching...love the end haiku..profound..
ReplyDeleteThis was one of the poems of yours that moved me most, Wendy. I hope you will do something more with this one...as I think so many could identify with it. I understand her need to knit...to feel her mother near her. Really, I think many at such times wish that once again they were that little girl (safe) with mother by one's side, comforted, and knowing everything will be all right. You conveyed the story so well, Wendy...almost brings tears to my eyes in its tender reality.
ReplyDeleteOh my...I remember when I heard those words when my father was diagnosed...hard emotions bubbling up for me. But your haibun is just stunning especially the culmination of that exquisite haiku!
ReplyDeleteGee, this is so sad..I am actually teary eyed. The need to knit..those mittens will keep you warm when winter comes. This was written with a "special" heart.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness, this is indeed written with "a special heart", as Truedessa has noted. How absolutely human and beautiful and sad and sweet - especially her whispering she would knit you mittens "to keep you warm when winter comes." OMG, how very moving - and how heroic her acceptance, and deciding to knit in response. This is a very special poem, my friend.
ReplyDeleteThis moved me so much.. if you could just capture those early moments and do the best of them. My mother realized it too late and we all missed for her to spend it in the best way... And I hope that she doesn't fade too quickly.. and what a treasure those mittens will be.
ReplyDeleteThis is all so marvelous, mainly because you paint such a vivid and sincere picture. I can see this happening, can hear this conversation. Wonderful!
ReplyDeleteThis really got me in the heart, Wendy. What a mix of both joy and sadness--as life is. Lovely.
ReplyDeleteHow warm yet poignant the poem and haiku...we need to enjoy little things now, not somewhere in a future...she's really courageous woman, best, Wendy!
ReplyDeleteBut still life will weave its yarn and one has to move on.
ReplyDeleteYes, this is certainly touching, Wendy.
ReplyDeleteoh so poignant, and unforgivingly human almost, to share such news and yet not want to talk about it... vivid
ReplyDeleteWhat a metaphor for life - sticthes, knit, purl....made me cry...!
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